Understanding
Relationship Difficulties
Navigating challenges in romantic partnerships, family dynamics, and interpersonal connections
Understanding
Relationship Difficulties
Navigating challenges in romantic partnerships, family dynamics, and interpersonal connections
Understanding
Relationship Difficulties
Navigating challenges in romantic partnerships, family dynamics, and interpersonal connections
What do relationship difficulties feel like?
Living with relationship difficulties means experiencing ongoing tension, miscommunication, and emotional disconnection that creates stress and uncertainty in your most important connections. Whether in romantic partnerships, family relationships, or friendships, persistent conflict or emotional distance can leave you feeling misunderstood, unheard, or walking on eggshells. The constant worry about saying or doing the wrong thing creates emotional exhaustion and can impact your self-worth and confidence.
The experience often involves feeling caught between wanting closeness and fearing rejection, leading to patterns of pursuing or withdrawing that perpetuate the difficulties. Many people describe feeling lonely even when surrounded by others, struggling with trust, or repeatedly falling into the same destructive communication patterns despite genuinely wanting things to improve.
Common Symptoms
Frequent arguments or conflicts with loved ones
Feeling misunderstood or not heard in relationships
Avoiding difficult conversations or emotional intimacy
Patterns of pursuing or withdrawing from partners
Difficulty trusting others or feeling constantly suspicious
Feeling emotionally drained after interactions
Struggling to set or maintain healthy boundaries
Repeating the same relationship patterns across different connections
What do relationship difficulties feel like?
Living with relationship difficulties means experiencing ongoing tension, miscommunication, and emotional disconnection that creates stress and uncertainty in your most important connections. Whether in romantic partnerships, family relationships, or friendships, persistent conflict or emotional distance can leave you feeling misunderstood, unheard, or walking on eggshells. The constant worry about saying or doing the wrong thing creates emotional exhaustion and can impact your self-worth and confidence.
The experience often involves feeling caught between wanting closeness and fearing rejection, leading to patterns of pursuing or withdrawing that perpetuate the difficulties. Many people describe feeling lonely even when surrounded by others, struggling with trust, or repeatedly falling into the same destructive communication patterns despite genuinely wanting things to improve.
Common Symptoms
Frequent arguments or conflicts with loved ones
Feeling misunderstood or not heard in relationships
Avoiding difficult conversations or emotional intimacy
Patterns of pursuing or withdrawing from partners
Difficulty trusting others or feeling constantly suspicious
Feeling emotionally drained after interactions
Struggling to set or maintain healthy boundaries
Repeating the same relationship patterns across different connections
What do relationship difficulties feel like?
Living with relationship difficulties means experiencing ongoing tension, miscommunication, and emotional disconnection that creates stress and uncertainty in your most important connections. Whether in romantic partnerships, family relationships, or friendships, persistent conflict or emotional distance can leave you feeling misunderstood, unheard, or walking on eggshells. The constant worry about saying or doing the wrong thing creates emotional exhaustion and can impact your self-worth and confidence.
The experience often involves feeling caught between wanting closeness and fearing rejection, leading to patterns of pursuing or withdrawing that perpetuate the difficulties. Many people describe feeling lonely even when surrounded by others, struggling with trust, or repeatedly falling into the same destructive communication patterns despite genuinely wanting things to improve.
Common Symptoms
Frequent arguments or conflicts with loved ones
Feeling misunderstood or not heard in relationships
Avoiding difficult conversations or emotional intimacy
Patterns of pursuing or withdrawing from partners
Difficulty trusting others or feeling constantly suspicious
Feeling emotionally drained after interactions
Struggling to set or maintain healthy boundaries
Repeating the same relationship patterns across different connections
History of Relationship Difficulties
From personal failing to recognised therapeutic focus
1950s
Early relationship counselling emerges, primarily focused on saving marriages rather than understanding underlying relationship dynamics or individual emotional needs
1980s
Development of systemic and family therapy approaches recognise relationships as interconnected systems, with therapeutic focus shifting to communication patterns and family dynamics
2000s
Evidence-based couple therapies like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and research into attachment styles revolutionise understanding of relationship functioning and repair
Present
Modern relationship therapy integrates individual trauma work, attachment theory, and communication skills, recognising that healthy relationships require both individual emotional health and interpersonal skills
History of Relationship Difficulties
From personal failing to recognised therapeutic focus
1950s
Early relationship counselling emerges, primarily focused on saving marriages rather than understanding underlying relationship dynamics or individual emotional needs
1980s
Development of systemic and family therapy approaches recognise relationships as interconnected systems, with therapeutic focus shifting to communication patterns and family dynamics
2000s
Evidence-based couple therapies like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and research into attachment styles revolutionise understanding of relationship functioning and repair
Present
Modern relationship therapy integrates individual trauma work, attachment theory, and communication skills, recognising that healthy relationships require both individual emotional health and interpersonal skills
History of Relationship Difficulties
From personal failing to recognised therapeutic focus
1950s
Early relationship counselling emerges, primarily focused on saving marriages rather than understanding underlying relationship dynamics or individual emotional needs
1980s
Development of systemic and family therapy approaches recognise relationships as interconnected systems, with therapeutic focus shifting to communication patterns and family dynamics
2000s
Evidence-based couple therapies like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and research into attachment styles revolutionise understanding of relationship functioning and repair
Present
Modern relationship therapy integrates individual trauma work, attachment theory, and communication skills, recognising that healthy relationships require both individual emotional health and interpersonal skills
Take our free self-test
Take our free self-test
Take a short self-test to see if counselling might make a difference.
Take a short self-test to see if counselling might make a difference.
Instructions
Answer the questions based on the last few weeks. Choose the option that fits best. You’ll see your results at the end.
This short self-test explores whether therapy could be helpful for you right now. It isn’t a diagnosis, but it can help you decide next steps.
Instructions
Answer the questions based on the last few weeks. Choose the option that fits best. You’ll see your results at the end.
This short self-test explores whether therapy could be helpful for you right now. It isn’t a diagnosis, but it can help you decide next steps.
Instructions
Answer the questions based on the last few weeks. Choose the option that fits best. You’ll see your results at the end.
This short self-test explores whether therapy could be helpful for you right now. It isn’t a diagnosis, but it can help you decide next steps.
How therapy can help
Therapy for relationship difficulties addresses both individual patterns and interpersonal dynamics, using approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), couples counselling, and family therapy to improve communication and emotional connection. Therapists help individuals understand their attachment styles, communication patterns, and triggers whilst developing skills for healthy conflict resolution and emotional expression. Individual therapy can address personal trauma or mental health issues affecting relationships, whilst couples or family therapy focuses on improving joint dynamics.
Treatment emphasises creating secure emotional bonds, developing empathy and listening skills, and breaking destructive communication cycles that perpetuate relationship problems. Many couples and families see significant improvements in their relationships within months, as they learn to express needs effectively and respond to each other with greater understanding and compassion.
Benefits of Therapy
Improving communication and active listening skills
Understanding personal attachment styles and triggers
Developing healthy conflict resolution strategies
Building emotional intimacy and trust
Learning to set and respect boundaries
Breaking destructive relationship patterns
Enhancing empathy and emotional intelligence
Creating shared goals and values in relationships
Frequently Asked Questions
Common questions about relationships and therapeutic support
When should couples consider relationship therapy?
Consider therapy when communication has broken down, conflicts occur frequently without resolution, emotional intimacy has decreased significantly, or when major life changes are straining the relationship. Early intervention often prevents more serious problems from developing.
Can individual therapy help with relationship problems?
Yes, individual therapy can address personal issues like anxiety, depression, trauma, or attachment difficulties that impact relationships. Working on yourself often improves your capacity for healthy relationships and can benefit your partnerships even when attended alone.
What if only one partner wants to attend therapy?
While couples therapy works best with both partners participating, individual therapy can still create positive changes. One person developing better communication skills and emotional awareness often influences the relationship dynamics positively, sometimes encouraging the other partner to join later.
How long does relationship therapy typically take?
The duration varies depending on the issues and commitment level, but many couples see improvements within 3-6 months of regular sessions. Some couples benefit from periodic "maintenance" sessions even after resolving major issues to maintain healthy communication patterns.
How therapy can help
Therapy for relationship difficulties addresses both individual patterns and interpersonal dynamics, using approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), couples counselling, and family therapy to improve communication and emotional connection. Therapists help individuals understand their attachment styles, communication patterns, and triggers whilst developing skills for healthy conflict resolution and emotional expression. Individual therapy can address personal trauma or mental health issues affecting relationships, whilst couples or family therapy focuses on improving joint dynamics.
Treatment emphasises creating secure emotional bonds, developing empathy and listening skills, and breaking destructive communication cycles that perpetuate relationship problems. Many couples and families see significant improvements in their relationships within months, as they learn to express needs effectively and respond to each other with greater understanding and compassion.
Benefits of Therapy
Improving communication and active listening skills
Understanding personal attachment styles and triggers
Developing healthy conflict resolution strategies
Building emotional intimacy and trust
Learning to set and respect boundaries
Breaking destructive relationship patterns
Enhancing empathy and emotional intelligence
Creating shared goals and values in relationships
Frequently Asked Questions
Common questions about relationships and therapeutic support
When should couples consider relationship therapy?
Consider therapy when communication has broken down, conflicts occur frequently without resolution, emotional intimacy has decreased significantly, or when major life changes are straining the relationship. Early intervention often prevents more serious problems from developing.
Can individual therapy help with relationship problems?
Yes, individual therapy can address personal issues like anxiety, depression, trauma, or attachment difficulties that impact relationships. Working on yourself often improves your capacity for healthy relationships and can benefit your partnerships even when attended alone.
What if only one partner wants to attend therapy?
While couples therapy works best with both partners participating, individual therapy can still create positive changes. One person developing better communication skills and emotional awareness often influences the relationship dynamics positively, sometimes encouraging the other partner to join later.
How long does relationship therapy typically take?
The duration varies depending on the issues and commitment level, but many couples see improvements within 3-6 months of regular sessions. Some couples benefit from periodic "maintenance" sessions even after resolving major issues to maintain healthy communication patterns.
How therapy can help
Therapy for relationship difficulties addresses both individual patterns and interpersonal dynamics, using approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), couples counselling, and family therapy to improve communication and emotional connection. Therapists help individuals understand their attachment styles, communication patterns, and triggers whilst developing skills for healthy conflict resolution and emotional expression. Individual therapy can address personal trauma or mental health issues affecting relationships, whilst couples or family therapy focuses on improving joint dynamics.
Treatment emphasises creating secure emotional bonds, developing empathy and listening skills, and breaking destructive communication cycles that perpetuate relationship problems. Many couples and families see significant improvements in their relationships within months, as they learn to express needs effectively and respond to each other with greater understanding and compassion.
Benefits of Therapy
Improving communication and active listening skills
Understanding personal attachment styles and triggers
Developing healthy conflict resolution strategies
Building emotional intimacy and trust
Learning to set and respect boundaries
Breaking destructive relationship patterns
Enhancing empathy and emotional intelligence
Creating shared goals and values in relationships
Frequently Asked Questions
Common questions about relationships and therapeutic support
When should couples consider relationship therapy?
Consider therapy when communication has broken down, conflicts occur frequently without resolution, emotional intimacy has decreased significantly, or when major life changes are straining the relationship. Early intervention often prevents more serious problems from developing.
Can individual therapy help with relationship problems?
Yes, individual therapy can address personal issues like anxiety, depression, trauma, or attachment difficulties that impact relationships. Working on yourself often improves your capacity for healthy relationships and can benefit your partnerships even when attended alone.
What if only one partner wants to attend therapy?
While couples therapy works best with both partners participating, individual therapy can still create positive changes. One person developing better communication skills and emotional awareness often influences the relationship dynamics positively, sometimes encouraging the other partner to join later.
How long does relationship therapy typically take?
The duration varies depending on the issues and commitment level, but many couples see improvements within 3-6 months of regular sessions. Some couples benefit from periodic "maintenance" sessions even after resolving major issues to maintain healthy communication patterns.
Meet our Therapists
Meet our Therapists
Jayne Tamsett is a BACP accredited counsellor with a BA (Hons) in Counselling & Psychotherapy and over 4,700 clinical hours. She works with adults experiencing anxiety, trauma, depression, and relationship challenges. Her practice offers an inclusive and compassionate space where clients feel heard, understood, and supported in their personal growth
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Adults (18+)
Waqas Maqsood is an integrative counsellor and registered member of the BACP with over 600 clinical hours. Holding an MA in Integrative Counselling and a BSc in Neuroscience, he offers a holistic, flexible approach that supports clients with anxiety, trauma, low self-esteem, and life transitions.
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Adults (18+)
Victoria is a compassionate and down-to-earth therapist with an MSc in Counselling and Psychotherapy and more than 1,900 clinical hours of experience. A registered member of the BACP, she supports both individuals and couples, offering a warm, collaborative space to explore relationships, self-worth, anxiety, and personal growth in a supportive environment.
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Adults (18+)
Couples
Matt is an integrative counsellor holding a Diploma in Integrative Counselling with experience delivering more than 500 clinical sessions. He combines counselling, mindfulness, and meditation techniques to support clients with anxiety, depression, trauma, self-esteem issues, and life transitions, helping people build resilience, clarity, and a stronger sense of emotional wellbeing.
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Adults (18+)
At Manchester Counselling, we are pleased to introduce Grant Fairlie (MBACP), a counsellor with over 1,900 clinical hours and more than three years of practice. Grant brings a background in drama education and specialist experience supporting neurodiverse adults and adolescents.
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Adults (18+)
Introducing Andrea Szentgyorgyi, a UKCP-registered integrative psychotherapist with over 1,000 clinical hours. Andrea combines person-centred, solution-focused therapy with advanced techniques including hypnotherapy and EMDR, creating a tailored and flexible approach for each client. With 6 years of experience, she provides a safe and supportive space to explore challenges and promote lasting emotional wellbeing.
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Adults (18+)
Jayne Tamsett is a BACP accredited counsellor with a BA (Hons) in Counselling & Psychotherapy and over 4,700 clinical hours. She works with adults experiencing anxiety, trauma, depression, and relationship challenges. Her practice offers an inclusive and compassionate space where clients feel heard, understood, and supported in their personal growth
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Adults (18+)
Waqas Maqsood is an integrative counsellor and registered member of the BACP with over 600 clinical hours. Holding an MA in Integrative Counselling and a BSc in Neuroscience, he offers a holistic, flexible approach that supports clients with anxiety, trauma, low self-esteem, and life transitions.
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Adults (18+)
Victoria is a compassionate and down-to-earth therapist with an MSc in Counselling and Psychotherapy and more than 1,900 clinical hours of experience. A registered member of the BACP, she supports both individuals and couples, offering a warm, collaborative space to explore relationships, self-worth, anxiety, and personal growth in a supportive environment.
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Adults (18+)
Couples
Matt is an integrative counsellor holding a Diploma in Integrative Counselling with experience delivering more than 500 clinical sessions. He combines counselling, mindfulness, and meditation techniques to support clients with anxiety, depression, trauma, self-esteem issues, and life transitions, helping people build resilience, clarity, and a stronger sense of emotional wellbeing.
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Adults (18+)
Jayne Tamsett is a BACP accredited counsellor with a BA (Hons) in Counselling & Psychotherapy and over 4,700 clinical hours. She works with adults experiencing anxiety, trauma, depression, and relationship challenges. Her practice offers an inclusive and compassionate space where clients feel heard, understood, and supported in their personal growth
More
Adults (18+)
Waqas Maqsood is an integrative counsellor and registered member of the BACP with over 600 clinical hours. Holding an MA in Integrative Counselling and a BSc in Neuroscience, he offers a holistic, flexible approach that supports clients with anxiety, trauma, low self-esteem, and life transitions.
More
Adults (18+)
Victoria is a compassionate and down-to-earth therapist with an MSc in Counselling and Psychotherapy and more than 1,900 clinical hours of experience. A registered member of the BACP, she supports both individuals and couples, offering a warm, collaborative space to explore relationships, self-worth, anxiety, and personal growth in a supportive environment.
More
Adults (18+)
Couples
Matt is an integrative counsellor holding a Diploma in Integrative Counselling with experience delivering more than 500 clinical sessions. He combines counselling, mindfulness, and meditation techniques to support clients with anxiety, depression, trauma, self-esteem issues, and life transitions, helping people build resilience, clarity, and a stronger sense of emotional wellbeing.
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Adults (18+)